Best 8 Sex Positions for Orgasms

We all love a good orgasm. But when it comes to partnered sex — particularly penetrative intercourse — there’s a real split in who is most consistently getting them via their partner (though couples sex toys are always a great teammate and not competition in this regard!). So what exactly are the best sex positions for orgasm, especially for those of us with vaginas?

First thing to know: don’t believe all the hype and myths from movies, porn, and TV. Orgasms for folks with vulvas aren’t an easy get through penetration alone, nor are they so elusive and complicated that they aren’t worth trying for. In reality, surveys say only about 57 percent of us are climaxing every time we have sex, and that’s usually when a form of stimulation other than penetration is involved. In fact, according to a 2017 study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 37 percent of American women required clitoral stimulation to experience an orgasm, and only 18 percent (!) of women said they were able to come on vaginal penetration alone. Related story A Brief Overview of Orgasms at Every Age, According to an OBGYN

The bottom line? Most vagina-owners aren’t having effortless, screaming orgasms every time we hook up and the same old sex positions aren’t really cutting it for closing the orgasm gap. If you and your partner haven’t yet cracked the code to your orgasm together, don’t fear. With experimentation and communication, you can absolutely get there.

Of course, orgasm is not the goal of sex, but that doesn’t mean we should give up trying to have the best, most mind-blowing sex possible. We just need to get a little creative with our positions and technique to ensure that the right parts are getting stimulation at the right time (and for the right amount of time).

If you’re wondering where to start, you’ve come to the right place. We asked the experts (or should we say sexperts) for the best clitoris-loving sex positions that can help make the situation ideal for mind-blowing orgasms. Check out these eight must-try positions and thank us later.

Editor’s note: We at SheKnows recognize that not every person with a penis is a man and not every person with a vagina is a woman. In this article, the experts and sources we spoke to generally refer to the penetrating partner as a man and the receiving partner as a woman. Related story A Brief Overview of Orgasms at Every Age, According to an OBGYN

The butterfly position or modified missionary

The height difference in this position does amazing things. “With the woman on her back and her hips on the edge of the bed, the man penetrates her while standing,” Madeleine M. Castellanos, MD, a psychiatrist who specializes in sex therapy, tells SheKnows. “She then puts her legs over his shoulders and tilts her hips slightly upward. This gives a wonderful angle for cervical stimulation, with deep penetration that can produce some intense vaginal and uterine orgasms. With more shallow penetration, a man can stimulate the anterior vaginal wall to hit the G-spot.”

Modified coital alignment technique

Like missionary, but looking for a little more stimulation? This position is for you. “A couple starts off in missionary position,” says Dr. Castellanos. “Once a man penetrates a woman deeply, he allows her to bring her legs together between his. He then shifts his weight slightly forward so that the shaft of his erection is producing firm pressure and friction on her clitoris as he moves. This works very well for women that prefer to have clitoral stimulation during penetration to reach a very powerful orgasm.”

The countertop

Spontaneity can seriously amp up your sex drive and push you toward orgasm. Margaret Wagner, sex expert and founder of the now-closed Bedroom Matters, tells SheKnows this is her favorite position. “It’s when the woman is lying on her back on the counter or table while he enters standing. It’s rough,” says Margaret Wagner, sex expert and founder of the now-closed Bedroom Matters. “There’s pushing aside of papers, pepper shakers, which add to the sense of urgency and inappropriateness. It’s easy to maneuver and move the woman to slide along the counter. There is still contact. He goes deep and feels in control. It works all the way around. The keys are clothing, stuff in the way, and being in an open space. Still allows for connection while feeling dirty. It just works on so many levels. It’s not about acrobats. It’s about context.”

The seated scissors

“This position allows the woman to have the control in order to determine the depth and angle of penetration as well as how much clitoral stimulation she gets,” says Dr. Castellanos. “With the man lying flat on his back and his knees bent, she straddles him with one leg to the side of his hip and the other leg between his legs. The woman can then find just the right spot to grind against his pubic bone with him inside her. She controls the pace, the depth and the amount of pressure and friction she receives. This is definitely a prescription for mind-blowing sex!”

Get off, stand up

“I’m no [pro], but whenever I’ve had sex standing up and holding my partner in the air or up against the wall, it’s been mind-blowing for both of us,” says Jim, an experienced heterosexual male. “I suspect it taps into some of our innate gender differences — the strong man and the small woman — which, in turn, heightens the sexual experience. It also forces us to be in a full embrace, which furthers the emotional connection as well as our physical one. It’s physically demanding and not for all couples, but for those that can, it’s highly recommended.”

Uncloaking the clit

We know the clitoris is powerful, but sometimes it needs a little encouragment to come out and play. “Given a woman’s clitoris is buried under the clitoral hood and cushiony mons pubis surrounding it, it’s no wonder this tiny nub rarely receives enough stimulation during intercourse to catch the ‘O’ train,” Jaiya, a sexologist, filmmaker, and founder of the Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough tells SheKnows. Luckily, some simple techniques can change that. “Form a ‘V’ with your index and middle fingers, and point your fingers toward your feet,” Jaiya says. “Press this ‘V’ onto the mons pubis, with a finger to each side of the clitoris. Then pull up, moving the skin with your hand. This should unveil the hard-to-reach clit in all its glory, exposing this little love button to a lot more action.”

Pushing tush

With the penetrating partner is on top, the receiving partner’s hands are free for some anal play and exploration. “If your guy enjoys having his back door explored, reach around with both hands, and grab both cheeks,” says Jaiya. “From there, you can do ‘butt yoga’ (a technique whereby you spread the cheeks apart, then together, one up one down, then vice versa) or ‘anal yoga’ (a technique whereby you place your middle fingers to the sides of the anus, then spread them apart, then diagonally, then up and down). If that gets him hankering for more, feel free to delve deeper.”

Happy scissors

There’s a lot more you can do with hands during sex beyond just touching and rubbing. “Heating up hot spots aren’t your hands-only talents,” says Jaiya. “They’re also great at moving body parts where you want them, and this technique is a prime opportunity. During intercourse, raise your legs, then have your man hold an ankle in each hand. From there, you can spread her legs apart, hold them together, part them at 80 degrees — the options are endless. And since the tendons of the legs pivot deep in the pelvic cavity, moving them around will subtly alter the below-the-belt sensations for you both. Talk about getting a leg up on a little variety!”

A version of this article was originally published in February 2010.

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